10 Rules that change the game:
Don’t ask him out. Don’t pick up the tab. And, whatever you do, wait at least three days before calling. When it comes to dating, everyone and their mama has probably given you their unsolicited two cents. But truth be told, all advice is not created equal. While you focus on getting the guy, let us school you on ten new school rules to follow.
Don’t ask him out. Don’t pick up the tab. And, whatever you do, wait at least three days before calling. When it comes to dating, everyone and their mama has probably given you their unsolicited two cents. But truth be told, all advice is not created equal. While you focus on getting the guy, let us school you on ten new school rules to follow.
1. DO let him foot the bill. But if he can’t, don’t trip, the recession is real. Figure out beforehand if he’s handling things, if you’re going dutch, or if it’s--oh no!--on you. If you do end up paying, be very clear (in that sweet way of yours) that you don’t plan on making it a habit. No sir.
2. DON'T hide your smarts. But damn, don’t make him feel like he’s in class either. Totally be you, of course, but not so overwhelming that he feels like an imbecile. So what if he can’t pronounce Foie Gras—who can?
3. DO ask him interesting questions. Not just “What’s your sign?” (Although some of us think that matters a bit too). Try something like, “What do you really want out of life?” or “Are you looking for an open relationship?” If he is, well, let it do what it do.
4. DON'T talk about past relationships. Telling him about your cheating ex is the quickest way to send a guy running. Seriously. Don’t do it.
5. DO keep it short and sweet. Wrap it up on a high note. It signals your time is valuable and keeps him intrigued. Yes, mystery wins!
6. DON'T feel obligated to smooch. There is no rule that says seal a date with a kiss. If you’re not feeling it, give him a hug—and maybe a Tic Tac.
7. DO carry your own condoms. There’s nothing sleazy about being responsible. If you decide to have sex, do it on your terms. Needless to say, there’s no exception to this rule.
8. DON'T send text messages during a date. Rude = turn off. If you have to use your phone, excuse yourself. If your Blackberry is on the table, you better have really important business. Like, really important.
9. DO expect a phone call. If he doesn’t call you after the date within a day or two, keep it moving. And, no, Facebook and Twitter messages absolutely, unequivocally, don’t count.
10. DON'T take these rules too seriously. After all, rules were meant to be broken (except #7). Lighten up--dating is supposed to be fun.
The New Dating Rules! via Tyra.com
