Thursday, December 30, 2010

2010 in One Thousand Words



There are so many things that I enjoyed about 2010.
Though there were some struggles, heartbreaks and tears, I was really, really blessed to spend time with some incredible individuals. This year I learned that happiness, much like misery, LOVES company. I'm really appreciative for everyone who rocked my world this year. So, let's toast to the year that's gone and claim an amazing and VICTORIOUS 2011.

I'm excited!!! *runs in circles*

"Monster" -- Kanye West feat. Rick Ross, Jay-Z & Nicki Minaj

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Save the Date.




1.11.2011





I know what you're thinking, "That's the day The Game premieres on BET."
Yes, this is true. But it also marks the beginning of my latest project.
Stay tuned, my loves....

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

I Came to WIn.

As of tomorrow I will be 1/2 way through my law school career. It's happening so fast. Most days I'm wondering what the heck I'm doing here. I mean, honestly, most days I still feel twelve. Meanwhile, I'm seated in classes with people with spouses and children. Apparently, I'm a grownup. Who knew?

At the half-way mark, I'll say that the most important lesson I've learned in law school is the importance of being true to who I am. I'm not your average lawyer prototype. My classmates and friends remind me of that daily. Lol. I'm a creative individual amidst a group of very logical thinkers. There's very little logic to the way I approach life and, good or bad, I'm okay with that. I've always acted based on emotion rather than logic and hey, it's gotten me this far...

Here's the song that got me through my Con Law final, and that will hopefully pull me through this Wills, Trusts and Future Interests situation (Don't judge me for the 3rd Nicki Minaj reference this month. Lol. The girl is doin' big thangssss...):

Nicki Minaj ft. Rihanna -- Fly



"Everybody wanna try to box me in
Suffocating everytime it locks me in
Paint their own pictures than they crop me in
But I will remain where the top begins

Cause I am not a word, I am not a line
I am not a girl that can ever be defined

I came to win..."

Monday, December 13, 2010

Jamie Foxx ft. Drake -- "Fall For Your Type" (Official Video)

"I swear I always fall for your type.
I just can't explain this sh*t at all.
I believe in people like you..
."



Thursday, December 9, 2010

#Random

Today, I became overwhelmed by who I know I'm going to be. I'm in the midst of studying for finals. I'm working hard for my money. I'm catching lunch here and there with friends...but for a good 15 minutes today I sat still and I thought about it.

Does that even make any sense? I always wonder if anyone else feels the way that I do, humbled by the experiences that I haven't yet experienced. Then, on some level, I hope that not everyone does feel this way...because that would mean that this feeling isn't as unique as I think it is.

*LOUD SIGH*




<-- And what would a random post be without a random photo? Lol. This one is from September of this year... and it always makes me laugh. :-)

Kimmie, Eboni and Moi.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Nicki Minaj visits The Lopez Show

"I wish that I could have this moment for life...
Cause in this moment I just feel so alive..."





I love this song.
And, she seems to be really enjoying living her dream.
Yay for #happymusic :-)

Monday, December 6, 2010

BLOG 36: CHRISMAKWANNUKAH.

One of my good friends was killed in a car accident in 2006. She was only 18, and I was 20. She was a senior in high school. I was a sophomore in college. It was a cold Sunday in April. Just a few hours before the accident I had spoken to her about coming to visit me at school in Pittsburgh. We discussed our schedules and caught up and talked about her school plans. She wanted to go to John Jay to study criminal justice. She was so excited about it. I told her I couldn't understand why she wouldn't want to study communications like me. Lol. She was such a compelling character...

Though it's been nearly 5 years since her death, I can't recall one day when I haven't thought about her. Little things in my day to day tend to remind me of her; Nike sneakers, that song by Donnell Jones, my Yankee baseball cap, greasy pizza, the EZ pass from my old car, Sunoco gas stations, a college basketball game on TV... I will never forget about my dear friend's ability to make everyone feel like they were special to her. Something that was unique to only her relationship with me was our celebration of made up holidays.

The thing is, we both LOVED receiving gifts. I mean, who doesn't? So, we'd declare random days throughout the year holidays just so we could exchange a gift, or a card, or even just a phone call. Every year, on December 6th, we'd celebrate "Chrismakwannukah." Even when I moved away for school, she'd call on Chrismakwannukah just to say happy day. We'd talk for hours and catch up... and laugh and laugh and laugh.

I say all of that to say -- more than her birthday or the day of the accident -- I miss her the most on Chrismakwannukah. It's our day; a day that is unique to only she and I. So, HAPPY CHRISMAKWANNUKAH in heaven, my friend. I know you're somewhere making someone laugh, even as I write this. I'm spreading lots of love and laughs today in honor of you... :-)

And Happy Chrismakwannukah to you, my readers, my loves...

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Keri Hilson is Trying That Whole "Sex Sells" Thing.


CLICK HERE to view Keri Hilson's sexy new video, "The Way You Love Me"
...because I won't be posting it here.


Good luck with that...

This Week's Random Quote...


"I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought, there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you..."
- Frida Kahlo

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Shihan -- "Type Love"

Saw Shihan perform live this weekend. Reminded me of this poem I watched on Def Poetry Jam a few years back. It makes me smile...



"I want a love that makes me need to change my cell phone calling plan
to something that allows me to talk to her longer,
'Cause in all honesty,
I wana avoid one of them high cell phone bill type loves...
"





YESSSSSSSS!!! *snaps*

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Q & A.

Went through ALL of my Shake Something emails today and have decided these three things:

(1) you are all nuts. (haha)
(2)
i kinda love you.

(3)
i am truly blessed.


Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I have so so so so so much to thank God for this year. One, in particular, is the relationship I've been able to develop with you -- my readers, my loves... As a token of my appreciation for all of the love you've given me, I've decided to post some of your questions with the realest answers possible. Here you go...
and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

xoxo
Nadia

Q: "You never write about TV. Do you watch? What's your favorite show and what's your guiltiest pleasure?"
-- Shanae -- Queens, NY
A: Haha. Of course I watch TV! Not as much as I'd like to, but believe me I get it in. My favorite show right now is Law and Order: SVU. I watch it with my roomie all the time. And my guiltiest pleasure? It's a tie between Real Housewives of Atlanta and Bad Girls Club. I hate how much I love em.

Q: "Do you date? If so, who was your last date? Was it that mysterious 'Brooklyn' character? How was it? I love reading about your love life. It's like you're living my life -- except you're in Brooklyn and I'm in frickin Nebraska."
-- Jenn -- Bellevue, NE
A: Oh, wow. That's a lot to answer. My last date was pretty recently. No, it was not with 'Brooklyn.' When I write about Brooklyn, I tend to actually be talking about the borough (...most times hehe.). What can I say about my last date? In a sentence: We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we should join up with them and fall into mutual weirdness, but sometimes the prospect of that is simply terrifying. <-- yes, that was a very long, run on sentence. whew!

Q: "What's the last book you read? Would you recommend it to a friend?"
-- Bobbi -- Chester, PA
A: It's been a while since I've done any leisurely reading. The last full book I was able to read was Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert over the summer. I would recommend it to any young person trying to find his/her way in the world. It will take you on a journey to your own self discovery.

Q: "You don't post many pics of yourself. Take a pic of yourself right now and post it! I wanna see you!"
-- JRock -- Little Rock, AR
A: That's not a question. My last post DID include a pic of me! Lol, but here you go... via Photo Booth. I'm bumming it out today.


peace.

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Right Now, Law School Makes Me Feel Like This...


I'm literally pulling my hair out. Too much work, too little time. Reading and briefing cases. Writing professional articles. Researching legislation. It's enough to make you want to commit a crime of your own. Whoever said law school gets better your second year lied through their teeth...

One good thing though: I don't feel guilty when I go do something for myself anymore. Life is about balance annnnnd I'd be a very surly individual if I wasn't able to make time for a little frivolous fun. I don't want to look back and say, "Hey, I should've lived a little more in those three years."

Nope. I'm carpe diem-ing the heck out of life right now... and proud of myself for it.

Thursday, November 18, 2010

My Only Question Is....


What's the point in the scarf? Lol.

BLOG 35: On Terrorism.


This week on a crowded rush hour subway, I watched an elderly man very deliberately pick his nose for 3 whole stops. He did it so boldly, and even looked me straight in the eye as I scrunched my face in disgust. Then, he proceeded touch every single bar and handle in the subway car.

I watch the news a lot. Reporters and legal analysts are always discussing bomb threats and chemical warfare. Political pundits sometimes spew ill-bred opinions about our Muslim-American brothers and sisters, but what about the elderly man spreading his germs on a jam-packed subway?

Now that man -- in his oversized sweater, flood pants and oxford shoes -- he was a terrorist.
I feel terrorized.




Lol... Just saying.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Keri Hilson -- Pretty Girl Rock

I LOVE this song so so so so so so much! <3




"No question that this girl's a 10. Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful..."


*doing the pretty girl rock*

Thursday, November 11, 2010

RePost: BLOG 16: Love Sucks.

I'm re-posting this blog because so many of you have written to me about your love woes. Also, a lot of people in my life seem to be experiencing the excruciating part of love right now. I hope this is a reminder to stay strong, and remain steadfast in your pursuit. LOVE -- the real-true- reckless-honest-pure-unadulterated kind of love -- it never ever fails...



After I finished with finals last week I made an honest effort to call people I hadn't spoken to in a while and catch up. It was when I spoke to my old high school true blue that I had my latest epiphany...

LOVE IS EXCRUCIATING.

The funny thing about pain is, people will endure it over and over and over again. Our brains can't compartmentalize a memory for pain. It's the same reason why I keep getting more tattoos. Foolish, yes. But once the pain fades, all that remains is the poetic piece of artwork that I love and enjoy.

Movies tell us the same thing. Big left Carrie in tears sooo many times before they learned how to love each other. Q got big headed and proposed to Tyra Banks. Thennn, Monica left basketball and took an office job before either of them risked their pride and expressed their love for one another. Remember Slumdog Millionaire? That little boy commiserated over Latika until he was a grown man. He got beat up, chased and betrayed by his brother before he could get to his girl. He had to get on a game show and win one million rupee to get that girl to come to her senses! Lol.

Moral of the story: Apparently, love sucks before it gets really, really good. And, because our minds have no memory center for pain, we will keep trying and trying and trying... blindly walking into relationships, waiting for that reckless, crazy, dangerously unconditional love...

So, whether it's the tiniest crush or a full blown committed relationship, love will induce what will seem like unbareable pain at times. Remain steadfast in your pursuit because just when you've almost lost hope, love will come along and sweep you off your feet. It is destiny.

That's what the movies tell us at least...



Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Kelly Price, Marsha Ambrosius, Jill Scott & Ledisi for BLACK GIRLS ROCK!



This performance was amazing! It's from Black Girls Rock, which aired on BET on Sunday, November 7th.

Black girls do, indeed, ROCK! :-)

BLOG 34: The Check-In.


I checked in with myself today. It went like this:


Nadia: “Self?”

Self: “Yes?”

Nadia: “Are you okay?”

Self: “I think so.”

Nadia: “Good. Just checking.”


Lol. I know. It seems crazy, but sometimes something as small as that can push me through the rest of the week. Some afternoons, days and weeks go by so fast that I just NEED to check in… and so I do.


Waiting around for other people to check on me is just selfish. Only me and God truly know when I need someone to ask the simplest, most important questions. I can’t expect my loved ones to read my mind [[even though sometimes it seems like they do]]. I also can’t guarantee that I’ll always be completely honest when answering someone outside of myself. So, I do my own check-ins.


I laugh at it sometimes. The fact that I am so in tune with what I need, even the tiniest things. It lets me know that I’m prepared. For what? I’m not exactly sure.


Anyway, I’m here. I’m studying. I’m alive… and I’m okay


Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Fantasia -- I'm Doing Me



"Nothing more beautiful than knowing your worth
And finally, I know exactly what I deserve"



Nice video. Nice Message. Rooting for Fantasia. :-)

Monday, November 1, 2010

Rock The Vote: "The rent is too damn high..."

Just a reminder: November 2nd is election day!!! If you care about what's going on in the world, I know you'll vote, my readers, my loves...

This is a clip from the New York gubernatorial debate, held on October 18th. I don't know about you, but he has my vote. The rent is too damn high!!!! Lol...




...*still crackin up*

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

I Support Gay Rights.


LOVE is louder than ignorance.
LOVE is louder than hate.
LOVE is louder. :-)



Tuesday, October 19, 2010

For Colored Girls Who Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf.

I'm so excited about this movie!!! The book, a performance poem, honestly and completely changed my life. There are things that we're not allowed to say as Black women -- that we're not supposed to say -- and this book shattered all of that for me. I say and write what I feel, unapologetically ... because if I don't, who will? I appreciate revolutionaries like Ntozake Shange giving "colored girls" like little old me a voice.

The movie, For Colored Girls, was produced and directed by Tyler Perry and is set to open on November 5th.






"...somebody/anybody

sing a black girl's song

bring her out

to know herself

to know you

but sing her rhythms

carin/struggle/hard times

sing her song of life

she's been dead so long

closed in silence so long

she doesn't know the sound

of her own voice

her infinite beauty

she's half-notes scattered

without rhythm/no tune

sing her sighs

sing the song of her possibilities

sing a righteous gospel

let her be born

let her be born

& handled warmly."

Excerpt from For Colored Girls Who Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf
by Ntozake Shange

Willow Smith -- Whip My Hair (Official Video)




love it.

I Wrote This.






....please only post comments in response to the post, not about me. lol. none of that "i love you" or "i'm so proud of you, nad" stuff. i appreciate you guys.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

This Week's Random Quote...



"I am not eccentric. I’m just more alive than most people. I am an unpopular electric eel set in a pond of goldfish."

- Dame Edith Sitwell


This woman, who I didn't even bother researching (lol), just described me to a tee.
Amazing.

I Didn't Watch the Hip Hop Awards, But...

I did google this cypher because I like the Simmons family. Lol. Diggy is a star. JoJo... well... poor JoJo. And Rev Run showed us he still got it!!!

Oh yea, and Ice Cube and his wana be thug sons are in the video as well...




Uploaded by yardie4lifever2. - See video of the biggest web video personalities.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

BLOG 33: All My Thoughts, On Internet Paper.

You ever get the feeling that you're on the verge of something good? I've been having brain blocks lately... the kind that prevent me from completing full tasks, or writing something meaningful. It's like I'm on the cusp but can't quite get over.

So, I'm writing... just writing it out until something clicks.

Hmmm... What's new with me? I have a new roommate. Well, she's not so new anymore. Lol. She moved into my apartment 4 months ago and so far so good. God has a way of placing the people you need in your life at the right time. After the foolishness I was dealing with before, I needed a roomie who was ready to be an adult. She's a true friend, honest even when it's not convenient and, most importantly, she's grown a** woman... and I needed that. Grateful.

I've been writing a lot this semester. For now, though it's time consuming work, I'm relishing in the opportunity to do something I absolutely love (and make money doing it) for the first time in my life. Grateful.

My love life is... well...I've fallen head over heels for Brooklyn all over again. He is nurturing me, teaching me and protecting me. I love him and he loves me back, tenderly and imperfectly. Every now and then, we get into these huge blow outs... the kind that make me consider leaving him for another more familiar city. But then a cool breeze blows the smell of fresh fallen leaves across my face and I'm stuck... happily stuck. And grateful.

Hmmm... I guess I'm just grateful. Life is moving in the right direction with very little prompting from little ole me. So maybe it's not that I'm on the verge of something good, I'm actually in the midst of it... 'Tis my season, I suppose. Blessed even though I'm a hot mess. :-)

P.S. -- I swear, writing is therapeutic. Whew!

Saturday, September 25, 2010

I Dreamt That I Could Paint You in Words.

“I dreamt that I could paint you in words
but there were no colors, bright enough
black or white enough
blue or green enough
it didnt mean enough
you are the star to touch the earth
shine bright for all eyes to see,
radiate and touch me
now Im shining like you do
it was dim before I knew you
bright light for weeping eyes to get used to
trust who? thats some shit I had to adjust to
soon as you relax they ease back and cold bust you
love murdered in Brooklyn, sound the alarm
but you still remain calm
my passion is unarmed
I try to practice my warlike tactics
but in your clutch, in your touch
my armor, just collapses
such bliss breeds obliviousness
I recollect sweet breath still wet on my lips
my prayers this:
God protect my beloved
and keep her covered
from the valley to the summit
like the land undiscovered
like the stars outnumbered, you are so beautiful.”

-Mos Def


After reading this, I had to catch my breath. He is a brilliantly talented poet.



Just So You Know....


*flips hair* lol...

Thursday, September 23, 2010

This Week's Random Quote...



"In short, all good things are wild and free."

-Henry David Thoreau

Monday, September 13, 2010

Unbroken.

Her voice was so sharp that it sliced my chest open.

"You are beautiful, " she said.

And there, in my bathroom, my broken heart tumbled into the sink.

"You are a good person," she said.

I reached for my heart. It jumped around violently, circumventing capture.

"You deserve it all," she said.

I stammered. My vision blurred. My heart was broken, but better a broken heart than no heart at all. Why wouldn't it just sit still? Didn't it know I needed it?

"You are better than their limited expectations of you," she said.

I collapsed to the floor. I inhaled deep, trying to catch my breath.

What was this woman yammering about? Didn't she see my open chest? Didn't she see my heart running away from me when I needed it so desperately?

I looked around for the woman. Seeing no one, I bowed my head, noted the gaping hole in my chest and floated into a swift slumber...


"What are you doing in there?! I need to take a shower!" my roommate's voice rattled me awake.


I bounced to my feet and patted my chest. It was whole again.

"Everything is going to be okay," she said sharply. "It always is."

I looked up at the mirror and smiled.

She was me. And my heart was mended.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

I's a Woman Now.




For those of you who wrote in about my blog On Heels, you will be pleased to know that I rocked 5 inch heels for Fashion's Night Out on Friday.... and I kept em on until 3AM for a party that night too. I know you would've been proud, my readers, my loves....

<-- my foot. lol.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Whip My Hair... Willow Smith?!

I like this song. This fact is sooo confusing to me... o_O



"Whip My Hair" -- 9 year old Willow Smith (Will and Jada's little one)

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Ideally, My Life Would Be Like This...

"You must write every single day of your life… You must lurk in libraries and climb the stacks like ladders to sniff books like perfumes and wear books like hats upon your crazy heads… may you be in love every day for the next 20,000 days. And out of that love, remake a world."
- Ray Bradbury

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

This Week's Random Quote...

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds."
- Albert Einstien

Thursday, August 26, 2010

How Bad Do YOU Want to Be Successful?

This video officially has me losing sleep. I just want to be successful...



"When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe,
then you will be successful." --Sean Walker

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Let's Be Kind, yall!

Three weeks ago American Idol winner Fantasia Barrino attempted suicide following a complaint filed by her then boyfriend's wife. The complaint alleged that Barrino was (for lack of a better word lol) a homewrecker. Earlier this week she went on Good Morning America to set the record straight.



I have to admit I was skeptical before watching the interview. I felt like this was one big publicity stunt to promote her new album. But after watching her speak, there was something I connected with. I've always felt like suicide is THE most selfish thing a person can do. However maybe, in some small way, we are all responsible for Fantasia's tail spin. The media makes fun of people's misfortunes when they're alive, always assuming they'll be here tomorrow. Had she really killed herself, who would've been responsible? ....just some food for thought.

"Determine that u will be an agent of love in the earth!
Nobody dies from a lack of sex,
but many people die from a lack of love!"
- Bishop Dale Bronner

POW!

Thursday, August 19, 2010

10 Things I Want to Say to A Black Woman

"Your skin reminds me of everything beautiful
that I have ever known." -Joshua Bennett


Say what?! This young man is a word wizard. *snaps*
Joshua is an HBO "Brave New Voices" poetry slam champion. He has performed at the NAACP Image Awards and for President and Mrs. Obama. He recently graduated from the University of Pennsylvania and his stirring graduation speech can be viewed here.

Monday, August 16, 2010

Kid Cudi Ft. Kanye West -------------------> "Wylin Cause I'm Young"

I'm not a real hip hop head, but there's something about this song. Besides, the swag on this track is off the charts. *salutes*

Sunday, August 15, 2010

I'm Chillin.

I have nothing to say. I could call it writer's block, but I don't think that's what it is.

I tend to write when I'm really happy, really sad or trying to figure something out. Right now, I'm just...chillin. Lol. I have one more week before school starts and I'm taking full advantage of my free time. Life is for living, right?

Please forgive me. I see the high site traffic and I appreciate it more than you know. I'm going to keep posting random tidbits as they come along and hope that my life offers me some kind of inspiration.

Thanks for hanging in there with me, my readers, my loves.


I call this photo "BOREDOM." Genius, I know. Lol.

Another Random (but true) Quote.

"Its confusing to me when I see people who I thought was winners running with losers. You're only as great as the company you keep."
- @cthagod

Friday, August 13, 2010

Am I a Warrior?

"Lolita Lebron was arrested in 1954 for opening fire on U.S. Congress in the fight for Puerto Rican independence from U.S. colonization.
Some women were born to be warriors,
I pray I am one of them."

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Monday, August 9, 2010

"They rapin errrybody out here!"



And the follow-up.... Antoine Dodson reacts to his new found fame.




"I feel like I belong on somebody's TV." - Antoine Dodson


I can't even comment on this.... There are no words....

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Crash Into Love

BIKES - Crashing into love from Raoul Paulet on Vimeo.

Right Now, My Heart Feels Like This...


it's a private party :-)

Image via papertissue

This Week's Random Quote...


"Since the last time I saw you
God has moved another mountain out of my way
Led me to green pasture turned my midnight into day
Placed my feet up on a rock to stay

Since the last time I saw you
God has calmed another raging storm in my life
Led me into safety turned my darkness into light
Now I stand in the power of his might"

"Since the Last Time I Saw You" -- Yolanda Adams


Tuesday, July 20, 2010

LOL @ Diddy...


There is no caption that would do this photo justice. Apparently Sean "Diddy" Combs will be making a bottomless appearance in GQ Magazine in August. This photo was released as a preview. *snickers*


image via Rap Radar

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Hello Brooklyn.

Jay Z - "Hello Brooklyn" from Greg Solenström on Vimeo.

I absolutely LOVE this!

Learning Brooklyn.

Loving Brooklyn.

I may never leave. Lol...


Monday, July 5, 2010

...#5


High heels.
Super high.
Crazy ridiculous.
Platform.
Stripper.
Stiletto.
HEELS!

Secretly, I wish I could walk in heels without feeling like I would break my neck...
I want to go to dinner, the club annnnd post-club breakfast
without worrying about changing my shoes
or feeling like I need to go home
because my feet are aching in defeat.

Someday, I will walk in heels without having to think about it.

On that day, ya'll better watch out...
because I'm going to walk from the Bronx all the way
to the very tip of Long Island
with a bull horn
announcing to the world that
I am a woman...
not a flip-flop toting faker,
but a real deal,
full blown,
sexy,
liberated,
phenomenal,
WOMAN.

Until that day,
I'll be that spunky girl seated on the A train
in her flip flops or Air Jordans,
smiling at strangers
and well, pretty comfortable.


Thursday, July 1, 2010

Janelle Monae -- TightRope (Wondamix)




I just love Janelle Monae... Originality means so much. :-)

Communion: A Female Search for Love

"Ultimately, I could not count on finding love, I could count on my mind. I looked for love, but I found freedom. And the freedom I found changed my way of thinking about the place of love in a woman’s life. I began to see that the proper place for love in a woman’s life was not relational love as the source but love generated in the quest for self-realization. By claiming that quest as essential, as the journey that would determine my fate, I realized that the proper place for love was the solid foundation on which i would invent self and create life. Uniting the search for love with the quest to be free was the crucial step. Searching for love, I found the path to freedom. Learning how to be free was the first step in learning to know love.”

-Bell Hooks: ‘Communion: a female search for love’


*snaps fingers* yes! yes!