Tuesday, April 10, 2012

What You Said to Me Instead.

by Safia Elhillo

strong girls like you must be 
the world’s loneliest creatures 
your silences, their own wilderness 
where the men 
come with promises that they will be
the one that gets you to stay.
big-shouldered boys who will melt 
their bones down into currency 
and will want to conquer you but
never claim.
you are the girl they chase 
not because they actually want you
but to prove that they can catch you.
what they haven’t learned 
are all the times you’ve broken your own heart
on their behalf, those clumsy hunters
who never know the right sequence of words
to do the job properly.

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Oprah Wrote A Letter To Me.

Well, she really wrote the letter to her younger self.  But, after reading, it could just as easily be written to me. I read it 4 or 5 times before deciding that I just had to post it.  Not all of it applies, but the most important parts do. Amazing how someone else's journey can so accurately mirror your own. AND, if this letter from Oprah is any indication of the trajectory of my own life, then I'm on the right track.

Take a read. I hope it inspires you, too. :)


"Dear beautiful brown-skinned girl,

I look into your eyes and see the light and hope of myself.

In this photo you are just about to turn 20, posing outside the television station where you were recently hired as a reporter. You're proud of yourself for getting the job, but uncertain you'll be able to manage all your college classes before 1 and arrive at the station by 1:30 for a full day's work. Even so, your biggest concern is how to manage your love life with Bubba. Yes, you are dating someone named Bubba.

On this day you've brought him to the station to see where you work, hoping he'll be proud, too. He seems less than impressed. The truth is, he's intimidated. You don't know this, though, because you can see yourself only through his eyes. A lesson you will have to learn again and again: to see yourself with your own eyes, to love yourself from your own heart.


You've spent too many days and years trying to please others and be what they wanted you to be. You will have to learn that the wounds of your past—rape, molestation, whippings for "stepping out of place," and not being allowed to show anger or cry afterward—damaged your self-esteem. Yet through it all, you've held on to a belief in God and God's belief in you.

That will be your single greatest gift: knowing there is a power greater than yourself and trusting that Force to guide you.

The trajectory of your life changed the day you answered the call from Chris Clark, the news director at WLAC-TV. Your response was ignited by the words of your then-favorite Bible verse, Philippians 3:14. "I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus."

Knowing there is a "high calling" is what will sustain and fulfill you.

From where I sit now, viewing your journey, there are few regrets. Only months before this picture was taken, you wrote a poem about a "woman becoming." Even then you understood that success was a process and that moving with the flow of life and not against it would be your greatest achievement.

Love you deeply,

Oprah"

MUSIC I LOVE: Emeli Sande - 'Daddy'

British singer Emeli Sande's album, 'Our Version Of Events' will be released in the United States on June 5, 2012.  If you like this video, be sure to check out her song 'Heaven.'  I've been jammin'!

Emeli Sande -- 'Daddy'


Monday, April 2, 2012

This Week's Random Quote...

"When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny."

-Paulo Coelho